How to begin building a confident personality in your newborn?
Our job as parents to provide our little one with the reassurance, as constantly as possible, that he’s safe. Let’s consider the profound shaping of the brain when your baby is flooded with panic chemicals, such as adrenaline and cortisol, two of the fight-or-flight hormones.
Whether he’s feeling hunger, indigestion, or the terror of having been put down alone (where his stone-age instincts tell him that tigers might eat him), he panics.
Luckily, your baby’s crying makes you crazy, so of course you pick him up to soothe him. Every time he cries and you respond, you’re helping his brain wire itself for self-soothing when he’s a little older. What you see is that he calms down when you comfort him. What’s happening biologically is that his body responds to feeling safe in your arms by sending out soothing biochemicals, which in turn create more neural pathways and receptors for these self-soothing hormones. Psychologically, he learns that his hunger and other feelings can be alleviated, that help is forthcoming, that someone is protecting him, helping him regulate himself. No need to panic. He can trust in this friendly universe to meet “his needs. And he begins to develop a positive working model of human relationships, one that feels warm and safe and loving.”
Its time for baby to sing, make sounds like coooo, aahhhh. It would love appreciation from you for these sounds. Reply back with these sounds and dont care about anyone watching or feeling awkward. A baby is here to make you natural and you are here to make a baby also natural yet grow. Be as crazy with your baby, drop all resistances and act silly, crazy, happy.
Men also need this time with the babies and mothers need to learn to hand over the babies to the fathers. This simple different sound game stimulates your baby's social, visual and emotional development — not to mention his listening skills. Plus, the intimacy between the two of you promotes bonding and teaches him social cues for seeking (and receiving!) affection. The sounds and gestures that babies make might not always seem like much, but it’s their only form of communication.
Early childhood development scientists say we should stimulate baby talk and treat it as real conversation. Parents should respond to baby’s sounds, cues and actions and engage with them throughout the day. The number of words a baby is exposed to will determine the amount of words in a child’s vocabulary at age 2 and a child’s reading levels later. Take baby babble seriously and encourage it.